. . . You really can't stand to let me speak for myself, can you?
[His tone is light and conversational. His hands come to lock behind his back. This is an excellent indication that he's absolutely furious. He doesn't sit, because he doesn't intend to stay.]
[At the very least, this is a positive step in that he's no longer pretending to be content with things as they are. That being said, he's also finished being quiet. About this, and in general.]
Here's a free tip. If it's very important to you to talk with someone about a topic that you're well aware makes them uncomfortable, don't present ultimatums. Don't make demands. Don't feel the need for everything to go exactly your way, because what's going to happen if you do these things is that you're going to be avoided, lied to, or told off. Please note which option I've chosen.
This is not happening on your terms. You don't get to say here and now, tell me all about why you were such a sad kid. You don't decide that. I was willing to let it be today, but then you told me no, as though this is all about you, and it's not. It's about what you want to know, but it's my life. If you want to talk, if you want to know anything, we're doing this on my terms or not at all. Say no to me again and I'm done.
thunderdome is ALWAYS
[His tone is light and conversational. His hands come to lock behind his back. This is an excellent indication that he's absolutely furious. He doesn't sit, because he doesn't intend to stay.]
[At the very least, this is a positive step in that he's no longer pretending to be content with things as they are. That being said, he's also finished being quiet. About this, and in general.]
Here's a free tip. If it's very important to you to talk with someone about a topic that you're well aware makes them uncomfortable, don't present ultimatums. Don't make demands. Don't feel the need for everything to go exactly your way, because what's going to happen if you do these things is that you're going to be avoided, lied to, or told off. Please note which option I've chosen.
This is not happening on your terms. You don't get to say here and now, tell me all about why you were such a sad kid. You don't decide that. I was willing to let it be today, but then you told me no, as though this is all about you, and it's not. It's about what you want to know, but it's my life. If you want to talk, if you want to know anything, we're doing this on my terms or not at all. Say no to me again and I'm done.